The importance of the no contact rule is paramount, and you’ll get an inkling of just how this step in the get your ex back strategy will be vital to your success.
A few questions first. If the questions below applies to you, it’s recommended you read this article and follow the links at the bottom:
Do you hope to someday get your ex back after a breakup?
Is everything you’re doing now just pushing your ex even further away from you?
Did you answer yes to both of these important questions? Chances are you probably did, and here’s a brief overview of the importance of the no contact rule after a breakup and how the no contact rule works:
1. Weakens Your Attachment!
Feelings don’t just disappear over night, and if you were the one who was broken up with, you can use this fact to your advantage. It’s true we get use to having someone around when we’re in a relationship. We get attached. That means both parties feel this.
No contact helps to weaken this attachment, and it’s crucial that you do. After a breakup and being dumped, you will be an irrational state. This will not be attractive to your ex at all.
You have to become rational again, get over the breakup, and get your emotions under control and your head back on straight. It’s near impossible to do these things if you’re constantly in touch with an ex who’s the source of your negative emotions.
Remember that fact goes on both ends. This is often why the dumper will most likely distance themselves from the dumpee. It’s all about negative emotions, and your ex may have feelings of guilt whenever you’re around. Or, perhaps, and most likely, you’re fueling negative emotions within your ex by certain behaviors your doing (discussed more in the later points below).
The real only difference is if you were the one who was dumped your ex’s ego, pride and confidence wont be bruised. Yours will be, and this has to be taken care of. Why? Because it’s not attractive. You have to weaken your own attachment to your ex, stop giving them the power over you, and this can only be done if you heal and move on from the breakup so you can start being rational and attractive again.
Your emotions will be unstable after a breakup. It’s pretty normal, which brings me to point number two.
Being dumped never feels good. It can be a huge dent to your ego, self-conscious, and sanity.
Depression and frustration is common. Unfortunately, constantly harassing your ex by trying to convince them to take you back is also common. When your ex wont have any of it, it’s also common to get frustrated and say and do stupid things to them.
These actions of constantly chasing them and fighting with your ex will only do one thing, and that’s push them even further away. The no contact rule after a breakup keeps you from committing further damaging mistakes and digging yourself into a larger hole.
The early you can stop doing damaging breakup mistakes, the better. Remember, the more you leave your ex with negative images of you, the more you will have to later reverse them in order to re-attract them back. The next point will help this problem a bit more. It won’t take care of it completely, but it will help.
3. Gives You and Your Ex Space!
Yes, no contact with an ex will give them needed space. They will find out what life is like without you in it.
You will not be around as a backup plan to catch their fall if the grass isn’t greener on the other side. You won’t be around when they’re having a weak moment or are lonely. It’s these times that your ex’s mind and thoughts will start to drift back towards you and the good memories you once shared together.
Nevertheless, this time of no communication with your ex just doesn’t give her the needed space and time. It gives you the needed space and time away from them also, which you will need! You will be focusing on yourself, and getting yourself back to a good place again.
No contact allows you time to get your power back, and to free yourself from the power your ex has over you. In the strategy of getting back your ex, no contact is the stage to heal, get rid of neediness and desperation and become confident and attractive again.
Do you really think you can get an ex back by being depressed?
Do you think the best way to win your ex back is to be bitter, angry and frustrated at them?
Is being overly needy and desperate to get them back attractive?
Do you really believe that chasing and constantly harassing them will get you on your ex’s good side?
I sure hope you did not say yes to any of the questions above!
These are just a few reasons pertaining to the importance of the no contact rule after a breakup. There’s more to it than just the three points mentioned above. If you’re serious about getting an ex girlfriend or boyfriend back, it’s important you learn as much as you can about how no contact rule works by clicking the link to go back to the home page and read my free ebook The Rules of No Contact.
Saving this book is important just in case you need to go back and re-read important information you may have forgotten. I also recommend re-reading the book as many times as you can so the information sinks in.
Getting an ex back is no one magical tactic or text message or letter or thing you can do that will make them come running back to you. It’s a complete process just like everything in this world is. Remember, fools rush in, and that’s because they usually don’t have the knowledge to prepare themselves for the journey that lies ahead.
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